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How to Spot a Potential Abuser in a Relationship
Stop trying to protect your relationship if you notice these traits.
It can be difficult to spot a potential abuser in a relationship, as abusive behavior often starts gradually and can be disguised as love, concern, or protectiveness. However, there are some warning signs that may indicate a person could become abusive in a relationship. Here are some things to look out for:
1. Jealousy and possessiveness: A potential abuser may become overly jealous or possessive, and try to control who you spend time with or what you wear.
2. Controlling behavior: An abuser may try to control your actions and decisions, such as where you go, who you talk to, or what you eat. They may also try to isolate you from your friends and family.
3. Quick involvement: A potential abuser may try to rush the relationship, insisting that you’re meant to be together and pressuring you to move in together or get married quickly.
4. Explosive temper: Watch for signs of an explosive temper or sudden outbursts of anger. If they become aggressive or violent, even if it’s just with objects or towards others, this is a major red flag.
5. Blame-shifting: An abuser may blame you for their problems or mistakes, or make you…
